Why won't my baby play with her grandparents?


Older infants are going through a stage of separation anxiety. They may cry when others try to hold them. This can be particularly hurtful to new grandparents who can't wait to shower affection on the new baby. First, try to rule out anything that might be upsetting the baby, such as strong scents or scratchy clothing or beards. Then, try to allow the grandparents to play with the baby while you or another familiar person is holding the baby. If you feel comfortable doing so, try putting the baby down in a safe place and leaving the room, allowing the grandparents to then pick up and soothe the baby. Ultimately, separation anxiety is a stage and toddlers will soon figure out the benefits of a close relationship with loving and indulgent grandparents.

Candace Lindemann

Children's Author & Education Consultant

Candace Lindemann is a published children’s writer and educational consultant. She holds a B.A. from Yale University and an M.Ed. from the Harvard Graduate School of Education. You can also find Candace blogging at http://NaturallyEducational.com. While Candace’s degrees prepared her for a career in education, she’s found that the best preparation for parenting is on-the-job training.

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